If he doesn't follow through with actions, he's either selfish or a liar. Neither makes him sound like The One, does it?
Matthew Hussey
Boldness is sexy, especially when it's done with a wink.
A little flattery goes a long way.
If you look like you're hiding something, we're more likely to swipe left.
Firstly, there is no perfect man. Looking for that it worse than starting the race badly, it means you're in the wrong race. What women should be searching for is their ideal man - i.e. the one whose values, beliefs and outlook on life synergise with their own.
A man who is invested takes the time to get to know you well, and his gifts will be a testament to his expert grasp of your likes and dislikes.
Ghosting's a horrible thing, isn't it? It doesn't feel good, it feels like a rejection. And what's more, it feels like a rejection where there's no closure.
How do you bust out of the friend zone? It's a horrible place to be when you end up there unintentionally with someone you have a romantic interest in.
The guy who wants to spend all his time with you may seem romantic, but he's also the guy who'll try to stop you from doing anything that doesn't involve him. If he presses you to ditch hobbies, passions, and friends, it's time to ditch him.
Guys aren't used to out-of-the-blue compliments.
The right man applauds your potential, he doesn't stifle it.
If you are in a toxic relationship, that poisons you everywhere else in your life.
Research shows that making eye contact is a powerful draw for guys - even in photos. Just don't mistake duck face for flirty.
We live in a very mollycoddled society where the slightest bit of discomfort is seen as wrong, but that discomfort is there for a reason. It's supposed to trigger some form of action, some form of change, a realization of a truth - something, and I think the self-help world has you believing that you should be happy all the time.
A friend of mine once earnestly said to his girlfriend, 'You look so pretty tonight,' and she replied, 'You're such a dork.' Her deflection was a total turn-off. It didn't make him feel attractive, nor did it encourage him to keep complimenting her.
The easy way to make your texts sexier? Lose the question marks.
You'd never be able to appreciate what's good in life if you've never experienced the bad.
Women want to attract a 'high-value' man. If that's the man you want to attract you have to be high value yourself.
Life isn't easy but it's not as complicated as we make it out to be.
Guys don't get as many physical compliments as women do. Tell him his CrossFit habit is paying off. He'll work double time to impress you.
When someone feels truly in love, they feel certain. That means they lose any commitment-phobia and will want to find ways to bring you closer together.
If you find yourself annoyed at his lazy tendencies early on, be wary - because that's one trait of his that won't magically change when he gets a better job or finally joins that gym.
Friendship language is, 'You look nice tonight.' Desire language is, 'You look hot tonight.'
By getting hurt, you might realize that what you thought you wanted and needed wasn't actually right for you. And that's a lesson only heartbreak and pain can teach you.
The truth is men like women who are challenging, and set them standards to live up too. Caveat: This doesn't mean he wants someone to neurotically pick at everything all the time.
When life hits you hard, it can throw you off course. But how you handle that adversity can teach you so much about yourself and change your perspective on what you actually want from life.
Too many people say they want someone extraordinary in their lives but they aren't extraordinary themselves.
The need to make sure everyone knows all of the great stuff about us is usually an insecurity in itself.
Commitment phobes will be scared of making plans for the next weekend, let alone six months from now!
Remember that the most confident people make others feel confident around them.
People en masse have lost the ability to go out there and meet people in real life.
If you label someone lazy or a liar, he'll feel like that for life. Worse, guys lose motivation to change when we feel like your perception of us is set in stone.
With any form of change, it's kind of like you're dislodging something. Once you've done it a little bit, you can open the floodgates.
It's powerful for a guy to know your exes have regrets.
When you say yes to the invite of someone new, you're also saying yes to their network. And their network contains people you may be attracted to.
If you want to meet a better quality man, you're going to have to get used to taking more risks.
The key to asking someone out is to not really ask. In other words, don't feel your sentence needs to end with a question mark.
There is literally no one on earth who isn't interested in relationship dynamics, or how to meet someone special. Or if they've already met someone special, how to make that relationship as good as it can be. It's a universal subject.
Speaking from personal experience, if someone asked me on a date, I would still want to pay.
Plenty of casual daters will throw you off with maddening phrases like 'I'm just enjoying having fun with you.' This doesn't make them a bad person, but it's your call now how to respond. Just don't assume 'having fun' or any such cliche means they're going to suddenly decide they want a relationship next week.
I think people don't want be alone. Ultimately, we want to feel connected. We want to feel like there is someone who actually sees us in the world. That's the big thing: to be seen. How many people actually feel seen?
Just because someone isn't allowing you to pay for the date, it doesn't mean you can't contribute on some level. For example, if someone took you for dinner and a movie, they may have paid for the dinner, they may have paid for the movie tickets, but then you buy the popcorn.
It's instinct: Men love to feel like they take care of you. Knowing you feel protected makes his ego grow two sizes bigger.
Women are conditioned to believe Prince Charming is going to come and sweep them off their feet.
One of the people I most admired was Christopher Hitchens. He was extremely polarizing but extremely honest, to a fault sometimes, but I respected him for that, and I loved his debating style.
Working with guys allowed me to at least understand guys in a way that I could then say to women, 'Look, here's what I've learned about men.'
I love when people come up to me and tell me they are in a relationship because of me. But I equally love the breakup stories, the person who says, 'I left someone last week because of you.' I like to think I saved 10 years of their lives.
The thing that actually makes a guy settle down is when a woman comes along who has a different set of standards than the other women he's met. Then she immediately becomes unique.
Women can be made to feel like that makes them seem 'too demanding,' but it's better than wasting time on someone who isn't planning any future with you.
You invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.
