Sometimes you have to park things you're not happy with, because there are more important things to be done.
Mark Hughes
They say that pace is the first thing to go, but my game was never based on pace. It was about strength and power and withstanding challenges and getting in the right position.
I always wanted to win, but I only used to get upset if I hadn't done myself and the people around me proud - that was my motivation for always wanting to do better.
As a player, you just pick up your kit, go out, and train or wait for the ref to blow the whistle.
Competing in the Premier League is more difficult than winning trophies in plenty of countries abroad.
I would like to think that during my time at Stoke - and other clubs I was at - I was always a manager that wanted to play in the right way, with purpose, with drive, and to try to dictate to the opposition if you could.
I'd knock people over and bruise their pride, but I never went out to hurt people. That is not acceptable, and I don't want to see it in my team.
Sometimes the manager actually is the glue that holds everything together, and when you take that manager out, sometimes that's when things start to go really wrong.
I've never tried to artificially create distance between myself and the players.
Management is not about shouting and bawling, because some guys will not like that. They take it personally.
I try, when I go into places, not to belittle what's gone before, because I know how difficult it is to manage, and everybody does it differently.
When I first signed schoolboy forms for United, as a midfield player, I felt for a while that I was just treading water.
I remember Ron Atkinson used to play in the sessions at Manchester United when he was the manager. Rated himself as a player.
You've got two huge clubs in Manchester that have got 'celebrity' managers, huge resources, massive turnovers. They can generate resources the rest of us can only imagine, and that's before the TV money even kicks in.
My job as a manager is to get the best out of your players. Sometimes you get it wrong, and you won't get the response that you want, but we all face that every single day.
Players' moods change on a daily basis, so it depends how you find your players, and up to you to get the best out of them.
Clearly, there comes a point where you have to demand from your front guys; goals is what sustain attackers.
If Ryan Giggs was plying his trade and been the player he had been here in a foreign league, he would go straight from playing to an AC Milan or Inter Milan or any top European club out of the mix.
When I come away from the ground, I'm quite quiet, but I like match day - that's when I come alive.
You have to win football matches, and if you don't, you allow people to criticise you.
The perception is that the Stoke players were one-dimensional: that they could only play in a certain way, and that was the top and bottom of their capabilities.
Football's become a non-contact sport, and that's spoiled a lot of the fun for a lot of the people, including spectators.
In my last years, I was conscious how I used to play the game when I first broke through. It was absolute chalk and cheese. I probably finished at the right time. There won't be many players like me in the future.
As a player, when you get beaten, you can comfort yourself by saying you did reasonably well. As a manager, when you get beaten, you think it's all your fault, but 70,000 people and all those watching on television know it's your fault.
Every United player understands what United is about. The players understand it is a privilege to play for United.
At United, there has been continuity with the manager, with the success they have had. It gives them a different dynamic.
It's no secret that I enjoyed the physical side when I was a player. I was a bumps-and-bruises man.
I suddenly thought, if I was going to make a go of it, I was going to have to look after myself and not keep apologising for knocking people over. That transformed my career.
I had no direct experience of a relegation scrap, but with Wales, I never had the luxury of being allowed to lose games. I was under pressure to win even the friendlies.
If you are loose and not quite taking clear-cut chances in training, then clearly you are not going to do that come match time.
If we are going to ask questions of the defensive guys, then we are going to ask questions of the guys at the top end as well.
There's a full Football League programme every Tuesday, so I see those games and get to check out people like Paul Jones and Robbie Savage by playing against them.
As a player, I had no idea whatsoever about getting a team ready for a game, what it entails.
All the major sports have video reviews, and for some reason, the Premier League, which is watched all around the world, is still in the dark ages.
At City, I didn't realise how much we had to do until we got there. Here, I didn't need to change the staff because there is quality already. So they certainly don't need me getting in the way in training by trying to show I can still play. No way.
Attacking football is what I want to watch as a manager; it's what I want from my teams. It's easier to be destructive and get people behind the ball than to be constructive and creative.
If you feel a bit aggrieved or hard done by, you probably need the break just to reset yourself and give yourself time for different learning - to get out there and experience different things.
The four and a half years I had at Stoke is something I will always look back on with pride because it was a huge achievement. To be able to last in a high profile job as long as I did showed that, for the most part, I did a decent job there.
You can't manage one size fits all; you've just got to know your group and know what ticks players' boxes.
There are certain games where you have to hold your hands up, take your medicine, and move on to the next one.
