For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?
bell hooks
There is no life to be found in violence. Every act of violence brings us closer to death. Whether it's the mundane violence we do to our bodies by overeating toxic food or drink or the extreme violence of child abuse, domestic warfare, life-threatening poverty, addiction, or state terrorism.
I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone else's ignorance.
Once you do away with the idea of people as fixed, static entities, then you see that people can change, and there is hope.
Why is it that many contemporary male thinkers, especially men of color, repudiate the imperialist legacy of Columbus but affirm dimensions of that legacy by their refusal to repudiate patriarchy?
But love is really more of an interactive process. It's about what we do not just what we feel. It's a verb, not a noun.
If we give our children sound self-love, they will be able to deal with whatever life puts before them.
Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life.
When we drop fear, we can draw nearer to people, we can draw nearer to the earth, we can draw nearer to all the heavenly creatures that surround us.
Until the legacy of remembered and reenacted trauma is taken seriously, black America cannot heal.
I feel that my environment reflects my belief in the grace and art and elegance of living simply.
In general, the mass media tell us that black people are not loving, that our lives are so fraught with violence and aggression that we have no time to love.
Life-transforming ideas have always come to me through books.
You can only realize change if you live simply. Once people want enormous excess, you can hardly do social change.
It's in the act of having to do things that you don't want to that you learn something about moving past the self. Past the ego.
Many spiritual teachers - in Buddhism, in Islam - have talked about first-hand experience of the world as an important part of the path to wisdom, to enlightenment.
No other group in America has so had their identity socialized out of existence as have black women... When black people are talked about the focus tends to be on black men; and when women are talked about the focus tends to be on white women.
The political core of any movement for freedom in the society has to have the political imperative to protect free speech.
Live simply so that others may simply live.
Class is more than money. Class is also about knowledge.
We judge on the basis of what somebody looks like, skin color, whether we think they're beautiful or not. That space on the Internet allows you to converse with somebody with none of those things involved.
I don't think you can hate anything that you know intimately. There is no fine line separating love from hate because there's a deep chasm separating love from hate.
A major part of love is commitment. If we are committed to someone, if I'm committed to loving you, then it's not possible for me to 'fall out of love.'
I'm such a girl for the living room. I really like to stay in my nest and not move. I travel in my mind, and that that's a rigorous state of journeying for me. My body isn't that interested in moving from place to place.
The greatest movement for social justice our country has ever known is the civil rights movement and it was totally rooted in a love ethic.
I thought about how we need to make children feel that there are times in their lives when they need to be alone and quiet and to be able to accept their aloneness.
I have always been a flirt. My mother says whe I was a child, I used to stand outside the house and just smile at everyone who walked by. Like, 'Please take me with you!'
My idea of a delicious time is to read a book that is wonderful. But the ruling passion of my life is being a seeker after truth and the divine.
Since loving is about knowing, we have more meaningful love relationships when we know each other and it takes time to know each other.
Whenever women struggle with breast cancer and face better care than ever, that's feminism.
I love my family, even as I critique their dysfunctionalities.
An often-repeated assertion in the body of film criticism I have written is the assertion that movies do not just mirror the culture of any given time; they also create it.
Any society based on domination supports and condones violence.
The ethic of liberal individualism has so deeply permeated the psyches of blacks... of all classes that we have little support for a political ethic of communalism that promotes the sharing of resources.
I have been thinking about the notion of perfect love as being without fear, and what that means for us in a world that's becoming increasingly xenophobic, tortured by fundamentalism and nationalism.
Yesterday I was thinking about the whole idea of genius and creative people, and the notion that if you create some magical art, somehow that exempts you from having to pay attention to the small things.
I think I was always obsessed with esthetics.
Since anti-racist individuals did not control mass media, the media became the primary tool that would be used and is still used to convince black viewers, and everyone else, of black inferiority.
Using pseudonyms was such a part of the early feminist movement. We didn't want to have this star system. We wanted attention on the ideas, not the persona of the writer.
Blacks who lack a proper killing rage are merely victims.
The working-class black Southern Christian culture I come from still nurtures me, and I mean directly, daily.
These days I wonder more and more why people are pessimistic when American history actually supports optimism.
In this culture, the phrase 'black woman' is not synonymous with 'tender,' or 'gentle.' It's as if those words couldn't possibly speak to the reality of black females.
I feel like there is always something trying to pull us back into sleep, that there is this sort of seductive quality in all the hedonistic pleasures that pull on us.
I began writing a book on love because I felt that the United States is moving away from love.
To live fixated on the future is to engage in psychological denial. It is a form of psychic violence that prepares us to accept the violence needed to ensure the maintenance of imperialist, future-oriented society.
Certainly we can end racism with love. We can demand that the federal government change its emphasis on racial distinction.
All the men I fall for seem to have a commitment problem.
The people I love, I'm committed to loving for the rest of my life.
I can be standing in Barneys with my coat and purse and my selections, and some white woman will say, 'Can you get this in my size?' What she sees is a black woman, and her service button goes off.
